That which you described appears like that which we would phone “doing it wrong”.

That which you described appears like that which we would phone “doing it wrong”.

You don’t appear to own clear objectives as as to what you truly want. Can it be some body you can get along with on nights out, dates, and in bed weekend? Since you’ve got that. Or you may not need him become a totally trustworthy buddy, who will confide his tips for you, or conduct their affairs with other people within an available, ethical method?

Because that last one sounds like either good buddy — which you don’t take time to really make, we suspect — or a person who is polyamorous / ethically non-monogamous, who has got taken the full time and energy needed seriously to think about these kinds of things.

If having somebody enjoyable it is possible to frolic in the evenings and weekends with is most significant, keep seeing him. But simply take 100% obligation for the security, since you have no idea what or whom he’s doing in the part. After you know a great deal more about his life if you really need a friend you can trust, next time form a no-strings relationship only. If you’d like someone who is ethical within their behavior that is non-monogamous reading “The Ethical Slut”, or gonna a polyamory meetup towards you.

Or even you can easily tell him the problems that are potential have actually together with his behavior, along with the trust problem included. 继续阅读That which you described appears like that which we would phone “doing it wrong”.